Buying a vibrator can be a daunting task. Not only are there 20,302,991 (and counting) vibrators to choose from; they all come in all different shapes, are made from different materials, and do different things.
Some of them even move.
We know. It’s crazy.
Thankfully, choosing your first vibrator isn’t hard once you know what you’re looking for. Even if you’re a bona fide beginner and have no idea where to start, simply learning about the different vibrator categories and what they do will quickly narrow your options. It’s the first step toward making the best choice when buying your first vibrator.
Originally published May 16, 2018.
This guide will help you find your first vibrator.
To make buying your first vibe easy-as-pie, we created this ultimate buyer’s guide to lead curious potential owners through the vibrator selection process.
Here, you’ll find everything you need to know about the different types of vibrators, where to buy them, and how to use them, this way you can feel comfortable and confident you’re making the right choice.
We also selected our favorite rookie toys – easy, fun, and approachable vibrators that anyone can enjoy as they ease into the wonderful world of adult toys.
Below, we offer answers to common questions about the world’s most popular sex toy. Of course, if you’re eager to see our top picks, jump ahead to any of the sections below to find the vibrator of your dreams.
- G-spot Vibrators
- Clit Vibrators
- Finger Vibrators
- Bullet Vibrators
- Wand Vibrators
- Rabbit Vibrators
- Slimline Vibrators
- Couples’ Vibrators
- Vibrating Cock Rings
- Penis Vibrators
- Anal Vibrators
What is a vibrator?
A vibrator is – drumroll please – any adult sex toy that vibrates. This vibration is usually accomplished using a powered motor (although some vibes have multiple motors).
Many people find vibration to be a pleasurable sensation. While this sensation can feel good all over the body, it’s particularly nice in erogenous zones like the clitoris, vagina, anus, and penis. These body parts contain high concentrations of nerve endings that are especially receptive to vibration. When you use a buzzy toy in those regions, the result is intense pleasure, an orgasm, or often both.
Vibrators are great tools for getting to know your body and learning to appreciate the positive sensations it’s capable of. They can also help you discern what feels good and what doesn’t – two valuable bits of info you can carry over to other sexual activities (such as masturbation and partnered sex) for even more enhanced pleasure.
Best of all, vibrators are good for you, too! Studies have shown them to improve mood, help with relaxation, boost sexual health, and inspire more enjoyable sex.
How do you use a vibrator?
There are only two rules to using a vibrator:
- Use it however feels good to you!
- Never insert anything without a flared base or a phalange into the anus!
Other than that, experiment and play “find the sweet spot.” Your first time using a vibrator can be a “whatever feels good” kind of game. Plus, any gender sporting any body part can enjoy nearly any type of vibrator.
In short, get creative and do what works for you.
When should you use a vibrator?
Whenever you want to! Many folks use them during masturbation, but plenty of couples use them during play to enhance sensation and increase intimacy between each other as well.
Likewise, vibrators come in a variety of shapes and sizes, making it easy to find one that will meet your needs.
- Do travel a lot? Consider a smaller vibe like a bullet or egg.
- Do you prefer external stimulation? Try a clit stimulator or wand massager.
- Want something for anal play? A vibrating butt plug is the way to go.
- Feeling bold and want to use it in public? Go with a vibe that’s remote-controlled.
Experimentation is the quickest way to learn what you like, so play and play often. Once you know what you enjoy, it’ll be much easier to find a vibrator that meets those needs.
What are the best vibrators for beginners?
Vibrators are often classified by their shape or the area of anatomy they’re designed to stimulate. Here are some of the more common categories of both, as well as some of the best beginner vibrators of each type.
1. G-Spot Vibrators
With their angled heads and easily recognizable curves, G-spot vibrators are designed to help you find and stimulate the – you guessed it! – G-spot.
The G-spot is not an actual organ; rather, it’s a concentration of pleasurable nerves located 2-to-3 inches up inside the vagina on the same side as the bellybutton.
Stimulating this area with toys, fingers, penises or any other item that feels good can produce particularly memorable orgasms and intense sensations. But be advised, the G-spot is a mercurial bunch of nerves that typically responds best to touch when its owner is already aroused. Because the G-spot is located inside the vagina, this type of vibrator is best for those who enjoy penetration.
Learn more about G-spot orgasms.
Better Silky G-Spot Vibrator
The Better Silky G-Spot Vibrator vibrator by Better Love is one of the best beginner vibes on the market. With a reasonable price tag and robust feature set, this pretty little vibrator is sure to keep you smiling. It’s 100% waterproof, completely rechargeable, and boasts 10 unique vibration settings to satisfy women of all walks of life.
Best of all, the smaller size makes it super portable, meaning you can take it on vacations and business trips.
LELO Gigi 2
With its gorgeous design, slim silicone body, and powerful vibrations, the Gigi 2 is one of Lelo’s best-selling vibrators worldwide. It’s great for beginners because of the shape of its head; the rounded bulge at the top makes locating and pleasuring the G-spot particularly easy.
Additionally, the deep, rumbly quality of the Gigi 2’s vibrations make for a deeper, more encompassing internal massage. Even better, if people find that G-spot play is not what they’re in the mood for that day, they can still turn the Gigi around and use its broad, flat head for clitoral stimulation.
2. Clit Vibrators
While anything that vibrates tends to feel pretty good on the clitoris, clit-specific vibrators (also called “clit stimulators”) are often smaller and easier to hold on that area for more direct stimulation.
Clit vibrators also come in a spectrum of shapes that can be fun to experiment with. There’s everything from small, bullet-shaped devices to broad, flat, pebble-like vibes. Many clit vibes are also designed to mimic the natural curvature of the vulva. This makes them particularly easy to hold in place during partnered play.
A lovely option for those who prefer external stimulation, clit vibes can also be used on the perineum, anus, nipples, penis, and testicles.
Je Joue Mimi
While some people prefer a more pointed sensation on their clit, the Je Joue Mimi is a better option for folks who enjoy kneading feelings similar to the one you might get with the palm of a hand or a few fingers used at once.
With its broader surface area, the Mimi targets the clit and the vulva with lush, rumbly vibrations whose frequencies are known for activating deeper nerves. Beginners may enjoy experimenting with how different parts of the Mimi offer different sensations.
Our advice: play around with the tip, the flatter part of the body, or the rounded edges for a rush of pleasure.
Satisfyer Pro 2
Among the most popular clit stimulators out there, the Satisfyer Pro 2 has everything you could ever want in a vibrator. Whisper quiet, completely waterproof, and made from a body-friendly silicone, the Pro 2 rocks 11 intensity levels, allowing for plenty of variety in the sensations it provides.
3. Finger Vibrators
If you’re a fan of manual stimulation, finger vibrators are a great, low-pressure way to add some intensity to that type of play. Finger vibes come in many shapes and sizes, but in general, you can attach them to either your fingers or your hand so that they stay conveniently in place while you do your thing.
Because you don’t have to think terribly hard about holding them, finger vibes make particularly charming add-ons to oral sex. Just think how interesting fellatio, cunnilingus, or analingus could get if the fingers you were already using could, you know, vibrate.
Slip the Fin by Dame Products right between your fingers for an intensified external massage that’s almost too easy to pull off. It’s perfect for the clit, but it’s just as suited to go anywhere your fingers can (except the anus, unless you’re trying to make an ER doctor’s day).
The Fin’s not super strong, so it’s a nice option for beginners who are looking for external stimulation but aren’t sure how intense of a sensation they like.
Fifty Shades of Grey Secret Touching
The Fifty Shades of Grey Secret Touching finger massager is a tantalizing toy with a lot to love. Waterproof and temperature sensitive, this delightful finger vibe will leave your lover shuddering with pleasure. Turn it on yourself for a similar delightful experience, if you dare!
4. Bullet Vibrators
Bullet vibrators are small, external toys that are particularly handy for clitoral stimulation. They can also be adapted or added on to pretty much any other kind of toy you can imagine.
Bullet vibes are a great diagnostic tool for beginners who aren’t sure what size, shape, or strength they’re looking for. Vibes it doesn’t get much smaller than a bullet, and they only come in one general shape, so using one can help you figure out if you need something bigger or of a different design.
Ironically, despite their size, there’s a high degree of power variation in the world of bullets. As such, because they’re tiny, they’re ideal for use during partnered sex when folks want some extra sensation but don’t want a toy that gets in the way.
Jade Bullet Vibe w/ Remote Control
Better Love’s Jade Bullet is among the greatest values out there when it comes to bullet and egg vibrators. With an ultra-quiet motor, waterproof design, and 10 vibration settings, you’ll find plenty of fun ways to play and experiment with the Jade Bullet.
Best of all, it includes a remote control that allows you to take your excitement to new heights anywhere you choose to go. Great for beginners looking to experiment with remote-controlled sex toys.
Tit-for-tat, the We-Vibe Tango is the one of the strongest, most rumbly bullet vibes on the market. No one knows for sure how they got all that power into that tiny frame, but they did, and we’re grateful for it.
Beginners will enjoy its flattened tip, waterproof body, and how easy it is to clean. Even more so, newbies might like to know that you can attach it to literally anything (via the power of rubber bands) to make it vibrate with the strength of a thousand earthquakes.
5. Wand Vibrators
Wand vibrators and handheld personal massagers are known for one thing: strong, diffuse, full-body sensations. Because most of them pack a powerful motor in their rather hefty handles, they’re relatively large. This makes them great for people with mobility issues and larger bodies, but they’re really meant for anyone looking for intensity.
By default, wand vibrators are made for external stimulation, but many companies make insertable attachments you can put on the wand’s head to turn it into an internal toy, should the mood strike. The clit responds with a particular enthusiasm to wands, and many people report they’re able to have spontaneous orgasms in the absence of desire while using these toys (though individual results may vary).
If this sounds like something you’d be into, check out our picks for the six best wand vibrators, regardless of experience. For those looking for something better suited to a first timer, our beginner picks are below.
The Magic Wand Original
This is the wand that started it all. Curling toes since the 1970’s, the Original Hitachi Magic Wand is perhaps the most recognized and whispered about sex toy known to man on account of its uniquely deep vibrations.
It’s remarkably uncomplicated, and thus accessible for beginners. With only two settings (strong and stronger), it doesn’t take much effort or know-how to ride this ride.
FemmeFunn Diamond Wand
For the rookie who’s not sure which toy is right for them, the FemmeFunn Diamond Wand has an answer: all of them.
This multi-tasking hybrid friend combines extra-strong, wand-style vibrations, G-spot stimulation, and pointed clitoral stimulation all-in-one for an ultra-efficient – and ultra-stylish – full-body experience. What can we say? Sometimes it pays to be indecisive.
6. Rabbit Vibrators
For being called “rabbit” vibrators, only about half of this vibrator type has the small, soft, rabbit-style ears that give them their name. A more accurate name for this type of vibes would be dual stimulators – toys intended to provide both internal and external pleasure at the same time.
They have one smaller arm meant to stimulate the clitoris, and one larger arm that goes inside the vagina. Many rabbit-style toys also have internal portions that move in small circles, that have rotating beads on their shafts, both, or neither.
One of the best things about rabbit vibes is that they’re safe for anal use – the clit arm acts as a base or phalange, meaning that the toy cannot get pushed up too far or lost. However you choose to use it, rabbit vibrators tend to provide a lot of stimulation.
Ivy G-Spot Flexible Rabbit Vibrator
The Ivy G-Spot Flexible Rabbit Vibrator is a dependable vibe that checks all the right boxes for beginners. With 10 different settings, this budget-friendly toy is great for simultaneous vaginal, clitoral, and G-spot stimulation. It’s also ultra-cute and silky soft, making it super accessible and even easier to enjoy.
Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl Rabbit
For the beginner who can’t quite decide between clitoral and G-spot stimulation, get a toy that can do both. The Greedy Girl rabbit vibrator has independent motors in both the clit and internal arms, giving you a full range of sensation, all while its uniquely angled head ensures that, if it’s the G-spot you’re after, you won’t miss it.
7. Slimline Vibrators
A slimline vibrator is typically a no-frills option with no attachments or crazy features. They’re typically sized for internal stimulation but can be used externally, too.
Slimlines can be especially conducive to beginners, because they’re so adaptable. While many are, well, slim, many others come with a bit more girth for those who enjoy a fuller feeling.
Jimmyjane Iconic Smoothie
Modeled after the classic slimline vibrator popularized in the 1970’s, the sleek and slim Iconic Smoothie by Jimmyjane is about as basic as it gets. Beginners can learn a ton from a simple toy like this.
Because you can use it for vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation – and because it’s long, yet slender – it can really call attention to which areas feel good and which areas could use some added or different types of touch. That, or they might fall in love with it as is and never need another toy for the rest of… this week?
8. Couples’ Vibrators
Technically speaking, any vibrator can be used as a couples’ vibrator. That said, some toys are particularly well-suited for two (or more) people. Often, these toys involve remote controls, apps, or shareable shapes everyone can enjoy.
We-Vibe Unite 2.0
The We-Vibe Unite 2.0 does it all! The smaller end is meant to be inserted into the vagina, while the fatter end rests outside the vulva, on top of the clit. The internal portion is thin enough so that someone can penetrate the vagina while the Unite is inserted. This both presses that part closer to the G-spot for extra sensation and allows the partner doing the penetration to enjoy the vibration.
It also comes with a remote control, so the person wearing it can be stimulated from across the room. No partner? No problem! The Unite can be used solo in pretty much any way you think feels good.
9. Vibrating Cock Rings
Penises love vibration too! Vibrating cock rings can be fun for people who enjoy the sensation of vibration on their penis or testicles, but they’re also fun for couples!
The cock ring turns the penis wearing it into a vibrator, meaning if you’ve got a penis and you’ve got a vibrating cock ring, you’ve essentially got an entire sex store at your fingertips.
In case you’re short on penises (or they’re just not your thing), you can also easily use cock rings for any sort of external stimulation, be it on the clit, anus, nipples, or… left elbow?
Jimmyjane Iconic C-Ring
When it comes to beginner-friendliness, you can’t get much more beginner-friendly than the Jimmyjane Iconic C-Ring. Made from super-stretchy elastomer, it can fit comfortably around most penises or packages (i.e. both the penis and testicles).
The small bullet vibrator on tip brings a wave of buzzy sensation to wherever you put it and – when used with a partner – can feel great to grind up against. Make sure to use with a high-quality lube for easy application and removal.
10. Penis Vibrators
These are, quite simply, vibrators that penises can use. Hooray!
Like other vibrator categories, penis vibrators vary in shape and size. Many men enjoy using them during masturbation, but they’re also great for working into couple’s play.
Hot Octopuss Pocket Pulse
Think of the Pocket Pulse as handjob upgrade. Made of soft, smooth silicone, it’s designed to be used as a vibrating stroker that massages the shaft and head of the penis.
Beginners will love how easy it is to hold (it cups right into the natural curve of your hand) and how seamless it can be integrated into play. Use it during masturbation, hand jobs, blow jobs, or even on the base of the penis during penetrative sex for absurdly pleasurable sensations.
11. Anal Vibrators
Butts! Everyone has one, making toys designed for anal a remarkably inclusive category.
When approached correctly, the anus can be a source of lovely, intense pleasure for many people. In fact, it’s home to the second-highest concentration of pleasurable nerve endings in the human body, outnumbered only by the clitoris.
The rectum and prostate (if you have one) are also power-packed with the same sorts of orgasmic nerves that innervate the clit, vagina, penis, and testicles. This means both external and internal anal play can feel quite nice. Just like toys for the clit, vulva, and vagina, there are many shapes and sizes of anal toys to choose from.
Always use lube with an anal toy, as the anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina does.
New to butt plugs? Interested in butt plugs? Learn everything you need to know in our beginner’s guide to butt plugs!
For a first-time anal vibe user, the We-Vibe Ditto butt plug is just about the finest introduction to the world of anal play you can get. With a size and shape designed for comfortable, easy wear and a velvety-soft silicone material, it’s accessible, hygienic, and – most importantly – fun!
The Ditto comes with both a remote control and a Wi-Fi-enabled app, so you can change its vibration patterns and intensities hands-free. While you don’t need to use the app unless you want to, it lets you customize your vibration patterns and interact with a partner from across long distances, putting you squarely in control of your pleasure in a whole new way.
Where’s the best place to buy your first vibrator?
There are many places to buy a vibrator, both online and off. The internet is awash with sites that both review and sell vibrators of every conceivable shape, color, size, and function, but there are also plenty of clean, reputable, sex-positive stores you can visit if you’d like to see the toy in person before you buy it.
Unfortunately, sex toy stores aren’t quite as ubiquitous as, say, Walgreen’s or Chipotle, but most major cities in most states have them. It’s also understandable that some people are simply uncomfortable going to a local sex toy store. If you’re rural, don’t have a car, or just plain don’t feel like leaving the house today, the Internet is your friend.
That said, you’ll find plenty of benefits buying your first sex toy online with a retailer like Ella Paradis. In addition to avoiding any discomfort or inconvenience you might experience visiting a shop IRL, you’ll enjoy benefits like free shipping, fast and discreet packaging (what you buy is nobody else’s business), and no-hassle returns.
You’ll also find high-quality images of everything we carry, including detailed information about the product to ensure you know exactly what you’re getting. Once you get it, if you’re not completely satisfied, just return it!
One site we’d stay away from is Amazon. While it’s great that Amazon has a liberal return policy (fantastic for products that don’t go inside you), there’s no guarantee that a sex toy purchase hasn’t been opened or used by someone else. This is never a concern when you shop online at a specialized sex toy store like Ella Paradis. Everything we sell is 100% new and has never been opened by anyone before you.
Want more sex toy buying tips? Check out Sex Toys 101, a brief guide to make shopping for your next toy easy-peasy.
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