If you have experienced the emotional trauma of being cheated on, you may be familiar with the not-so-fun aftermath of a broken bond.
While it sounds cheesy — the grass is greener on the other side, you just have to get there.
There are a few things you need to do to come back stronger, sexier, and more self-confident than ever before. These tips are not to dismiss the rollercoaster of emotions you have endured. Instead, they are here to help you realize that you are worthy of everything you desire and more. Don’t let infidelity hold you back; you’ve got bigger and better things to do.
1. Welcome words of affirmation.
Don’t wait around to hear the obvious from someone else. You can and should be the source of your own affirmations.
All you need is a mirror and a list of qualities that confirm your worth. Look at yourself and proclaim all of the words that you need to hear. Do you need to remind yourself that you are healthy? That you are capable? Do you need to be told that you are beautiful or a boss?
Whatever you need to hear, say it, and do so with conviction. When you learn to not be dependent on the words of others to establish your self worth, you will thrive like never before.
2. Surround yourself with positive energy.
You are a product of your environment. If you surround yourself with negative energy after being cheated on, good luck trying to come out on top. Positivity is the ultimate healing power and essential if you are feeling under the weather.
It can be challenging to create positive energy and environments after an emotional event like being cheated on, but it should not be the reason you wallow in a toxic headspace. Lean on friends and family for support. When those closest to you share positive energy, you can begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
3. Pleasure. No partner necessary.
If you’ve just experienced a break up after being cheated on, it is time to introduce a new wave of pleasure.
Whether you’ve spent the last couple of months or the last couple of years being treated to intimate moments by a partner, pleasure does not require an accomplice… unless, of course, that accomplice is made from silicone and has multiple vibration settings.
Anyhow, it is easy to forget that pleasure can be personal when you spend so much time doing so in a romantic setting. The truth is, an orgasm does not discriminate. You can experience the same level of intimacy, stimulation, and orgasmic outcomes without a partner as you do with one. The secret is learning what you like.
Sexual preferences with a partner can translate to your solo sessions. If you like clitoral stimulation from a partner, there is a toy for that. Anal play… toys for that. Prefer dual stimulation? You guessed it… there are toys for that.
4. Put on a cute outfit… for you.
While it may sound superficial, the power of putting on an outfit that makes you feel like you run the world is real. Sometimes it takes seeing something to believe it. If you’ve been living in sweatpants and sorrow since being cheated on, it is time that you are reminded of your beauty and brilliance.
Put on your favorite pair of pants or no pants at all. Whatever route you take, make a runway and walk it. Feel confident in yourself and ditch the negative energy that you’ve been carrying around… it doesn’t complement your outfit.
5. Soak it in.
It is so important that you find balance between letting infidelity of a partner consume you and totally ignoring it. Soaking in what has happened requires that you acknowledge the act of cheating, while simultaneously creating boundaries for yourself to ensure you do not let it take over your mind.
Soaking in any unfortunate situation is challenging. You must be honest with yourself, with those you choose to share this information with, and with your unfaithful partner. Take the time to process your emotions and soak in all of the feelings– both good and bad.
6. Therapy — however you define it.
Once you soak in all of your emotions, both positive and not so positive, it can be helpful to tap into some therapeutic practices that will help you make further sense of the situation. Therapy can look like many different things:
Talking it out, whether that be with a friend, family member, or certified therapist, can be a game changer when it comes to processing the actions and subsequent emotions of an unfaithful partner. Therapy can also be as simple as taking time for you. Meditation, time in the sun, and physical exercise are all fabulous ways to promote healing.
At the same time, retail therapy, when done in moderation, can pose real psychological and therapeutic benefits when battling periods of stress or sadness. By doing so, you not only treat yourself to items that have drawn your attention, but regain a sense of control after a scandal that you had no jurisdiction over.