If you’re having them already or if you want to achieve your first super orgasm, there is a lot of super interesting science behind multiple orgasms. Scientists didn’t even start studying multiple orgasms until the latter half of the 20th century. We know a lot more about biology than we did in the 1950s. We also know a lot more about the role that mental states play in achieving orgasm.
The truth is that we still don’t know everything. Sex is the way that human beings reproduce, so most of what the body experiences during sex has a biological reason. However, there is a lot of research yet to be done on the subject. This is especially true for less mainstream identities or sexual activities.
Here’s what we do know about multiple orgasms.
What Science Says About Multiple Orgasms
Current studies indicate that most women can have them, but only about 15% report actually having them. In this study, the term ‘women’ is used to refer to people with vaginas and vulvas. This is important because no matter someone’s gender identity, their sexual equipment determines whether or not they can have multiple orgasms.
Let’s explore this idea. Research tells us that men have a long refractory phase. This is also known as the recovery phase. When someone with a penis orgasms, it releases sperm. The biological impetus is to create new life. So men need a longer period of time to recover while their bodies regenerate sperm and semen. For people with penises, orgasm is more directly connected to the biological purpose of ejaculation.
On the other hand, scientists have studied female orgasms and discovered the opposite to be true. Women don’t need to orgasm in order to participate in the act of conception. So why do women orgasm at all? One answer is that pleasure makes women want to have sex.
Science shows that most women need a combination of clitoral and G-spot stimulation to orgasm. It’s just the way bodies were made.
Who Can Have Multiple Orgasms?
When it comes to multiple orgasms, all people with vulvas can theoretically have them.
However, studies show that only about 20% of women can achieve orgasm with penetration alone. So if you have a vagina and you haven’t had a super orgasm, there might be other reasons contributing to your situation. For instance, 95% of heterosexual men and 89% of gay men reported a climax every time they had sex. For straight women, the number was 65%. For lesbians, the number was 86%.
Remember that if you work too hard mentally, your body won’t be able to relax. If you haven’t had multiple orgasms, it’s likely that you haven’t had the time to focus on it. It’s a skill just like any other activity you do between the sheets. Just knowing that the possibility is there can help you achieve the big O-o-o’s.
How to Have Multiple Orgasms
Ready to try for multiple orgasms?
Experts recommend spending some time experimenting with different kinds of stimulation. People who have super orgasms specifically recommend doing some solo exploration to take the pressure off your partner. Then, once you figure out what works, you can try it out together.
It takes experimentation, practice, and a relaxing setting. It probably won’t happen the first time.
But there’s a lot you can do to set the stage. Seduce yourself with a calming bath, an unscheduled evening, and a locked door. Do whatever gets you into the mood and turn off your phone notifications. Use the toys that you already have or try something new, like a sucking stimulator toy.
Focus on the sensation and see if you can go further than the initial orgasm. It might feel very intense, but stay with the sensation and see how it feels. Many people report feeling a brief plateau and then another vibrating peak of orgasm.
Two orgasms in a row is a good start! The most intense reports indicate that 60 orgasms or more have been achieved in a single session.
At the end of the day, you need to do whatever feels best for you. Multiple orgasms feel great, but don’t let the lack of them get in the way of enjoying sex. Keep trying and you might just surprise yourself.
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