Strap Up, Game On: 5 Tips for First Time Pegging 0 38

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You may have heard of it on Broad City, TikTok, or from your cool single Aunt… yes, we’re talking about pegging.

For those who are curious about this niche backdoor activity, but don’t know quite where to start, this blog was made for you. 

Pegging (verb);  a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating his anus with the a strap-on dildo.

First, a quick anatomy lesson:

What is the prostate gland?

The prostate gland is the small muscular organ in men that produces semen found in male ejaculate. It is surrounded by nerve endings that lead to arousal when touched just right. 

How do you find the prostate gland?

You can find the prostate by entering the anus, as it is an internal organ! While this is the most direct path to stimulate it, you can also stimulate it by pressing/massaging a man’s perineum (aka the taint). This is the skin that is between the penis and anus. Internally, it feels like a fleshy bulb of tissue, similar to a woman’s G-Spot.

Does everyone have a prostate?

Only cis-gendered, assigned-male-at-birth men have a prostate gland in their anus. Women have a version of the prostate called Skene glands – aka the female G-Spot. Women’s prostate is on their vaginal wall about a finger’s length up, and a male’s is in his anus as mentioned above.

Now, to battle the biggest misconception:

If a man likes pegging, does that make him homosexual?

A man of any sexual orientation can enjoy pegging. Pegging is not an inference of sexual orientation, nor does it “turn” somebody homosexual. Pegging is prostate simulation by a cis-gendered woman to a cis-gendered male. This common misconception, rooted in homophobia, leads many men to stray away from this amazingly pleasurable activity.

Men not doing something because they fear people will think they are gay? C’mon boys. It’s 2021. Let’s leave this misconception in the past.

Ladies and Gentlemen, Your Guide to Pegging.

Time for the fun part!! Below you’ll find a step-by-step guide to pegging for the first time. To make things easier to follow, the ‘pegger’ will be referred to as Partner A, and the ‘receiver’ will be Partner B.

1. Prepare.

Like anal, preparation is key to creating the most pleasurable experience possible.

Some foods to avoid if you plan on pegging later in the day: spicy foods, beans, dairy… you get the drift. Avoid any bowel-reactant foods for at least 4 hours beforehand. If not, things may get a little messy.

Have Partner B go number #2 before you begin. This will clear the passageway and make it more enjoyable for them. Pegging is no fun if your colon gets in the way…

2. Lube up!

Grab some lube! Specifically, anal lube. Try this water-based one from Pjur’s Backdoor collection. Remember – if your dildo is silicone, do NOT use a silicone lubricant.

Partner A, rub the lube around and inside of Partner B’s anus… and be sure to enjoy this intimate moment. No need to rush the pegging process. This will allow Partner B to get more ‘in the zone.’ Save some lubricant for the tip of the dildo as well.

3. Strap up, ladies. 

Let Partner B massage some more lubricant onto their anus while you strap up – literally. Need strap-on inspiration? Try the Sportsheets strap-on and dildo bundle. It even comes with extra padding in the frontal section for increased comfort.

Partner A, start by putting your legs into the bottom harnesses. It should mimic stepping into a garter belt. Then, tighten the sides so they don’t move around, but make sure they aren’t too tight to where they are cutting off circulation. The frontal part (the large section where the dildo is) should be resting comfortably on your mons pubis. Additionally, it should be suspended straight forward (mimicking an erect penis). So ensure your silicon sword is not hanging down or standing straight upward… that wouldn’t be a fun time.

4. Peg o’clock.

There are a few ways to peg. Here are 2 positions to tackle as taking pegging by storm.

Option 1: Face down/doggy

This is probably the easiest method. Have Partner B lay down on the bed on their stomach or on all fours, facing away from you, with their anus facing you. Make sure to add some lube to the end of the dildo for easier insertion. Steady yourself by grabbing their hips. Begin to penetrate slowly, and be sure to be openly communicative with your partner on whether to go faster, slower, deeper, etc.

Option 2: Riding

Partner B should be laying down on his back. Partner A, this part is for you: instead of sitting on his lap, sit so that the dildo is at anus-level. This may require you to sit further back on Partner B’s legs, or even on the bed itself. Begin to penetrate while rubbing Partner B’s legs or holding them up for extra deep penetration.

5. Get a little handsy.

While penetrating Partner B’s anus, try to grab his penis and stroke it gently at the same time. This will provide innumerable pleasures to him, and make it easier for him to experience a prostate orgasm. 

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