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Guide: Choosing The Right Dildo | Ella Paradis

Dildos are a perennial favorite in in sex toy collections, but how do you choose one?

The struggle is real when it comes to shopping for a dildo online. There seems to be a lot of confusion out there — and who could blame you? The descriptions aren’t great, and many brands promise a MIND-BLOWING experience, but often fall short.

As popular opinion shifts toward women’s empowerment and sexual health, our collective desire to incorporate love toys into a broader sexual repertoire has become the preferred norm. Unfortunately, there isn’t a lot of great information out there on the “ins and outs” of selecting a dildo that will add value and excitement to your sexy time.

There are so many different considerations to make when choosing the right dildo for you, whether it be the size, shape, density, material, texture or color of your new toy. That’s why Ella Paradis is here – let’s talk dildos.

What are Dildos?

Dildos are adult sex toys which are molded and shaped to resemble a penis (fun fact: many dildos are cast from the genitals of male porn stars). They can be used by both women and men – though, they are meant for penetration as there is often no vibration whatsoever. That’s right – it means your arms are doing all the work (or your legs if you’re riding your toy in a squatting position). Sure, some dildos DO vibrate… but that’s another story. Learn more about the difference between vibrators and dildos.

Pro Tip: A great way to quickly switch between vaginal/anal or different partners (without having to hand wash your toy) is to use a condom on your dildo. Remember cover the entire toy, all the way down to the base!

How to Choose Your Perfect Dildo

When trying a new dildo for the first time, your body will tell you what material works best for you. If your toy leaves something to be desired, don’t give up! It may just not be the right toy for you. Dildos can have a variety of characteristics that set them apart from other sex toys, including other dildos!

1. Sizes – Length & Thickness

Don’t let size ever be an issue again. Finding the right dildo is all about personalization, and it’s the most important aspect of your sex toy. You must be realistic about not only what you want, but what your body can handle. Too big and you won’t be able to use it, too small and it won’t get the job done.

Ensure you not only have a comfortable, insertable length, but also a width (or girth) that’s right for your body. There are different techniques in testing length and width for your body you can find online. As always, never use a technique that causes pain or discomfort for yourself or your partner – you know your body best.

2. Use & Shape — Vaginal or Anal, Solo or Partnered

While most dildos can be used for either vaginal or anal stimulation, when performing anal stimulation, we recommend utilizing dildos that have beads, a long handle, or flared base for safety purposes. These features will assist in preventing your dildo from going all the way inside and getting stuck. Hey, it happens, and you can Google that one too!

Nexus Glide Prostate MassagerWhen performing partnered vaginal or anal stimulation, we recommend following similar guidelines as the solo play – seeking features preventing your dildo from going all the way inside of your anus for anal stimulation. A fun addition to partnered play is double-penetrating dildos that usually feature opposing dildos on one base, or a strap-on utilized for simultaneous stimulation.

Looking for g-spot or p-spot stimulation? You’ll want to look at a curved g-spot dildo or prostate dildo accordingly. A curved shape will allow you massage that special spot, reaching new heights of pleasure.

3. Material — Rubber/Silicone, Glass, Metal

Dildos come in many materials. There are various types of rubber dildos – whether it be TPR/TPE, soft PVC, metal, and the ever-popular silicone. Let’s talk about the pros and cons of all of your material options for your next dildo!

Rubber dildos are great alternatives to luxury sex toys, as they are usually lower in price. The drawback for these dildos is that they are recommended to be used for solo stimulation as they are not the easiest to fully sterilize for shared play. If you plan on sharing with a partner or partners – don’t fret! Use these dildos with a condom (all the way to the base) for protection.

Glass dildos are not only extremely pleasing and experimental due to their ability to let you play with temperate (safely), but they are some of the most beautiful sex toys on the market. Coming in many shapes and sizes, glass dildos can easily hit your g-spot or p-spot repeatedly without missing the mark! A unique feature for glass dildos comes with their absence of flexibility. Due to the material, they are only limited to one position, which is a preference for some and drawback for others.

 

Glass G-Spot Dildo

Metal dildos are the stylish cousin to the glass dildo. Again, with the ability to play with temperature (heat it up or ice it down), the metal dildo should be used gently and with some caution until you become familiar. Both the glass and metal dildos are recommended to be used with plenty of lube to really take advantage of the smooth and sleek features they’re so well-known for. Glass and metal dildos can be used with any type of lubricant, can be heated or cooled with water (for additionally comfort and stimulation) and are very easy to clean.

The undisputed king of the bedroom sex toy is the tried-and-true silicone dildo. A staple to almost everyone’s sex toy collection, the silicone sex toy really has little limitations. Due to silicone’s ability to come in an array of densities, flexibility, shapes, sizes and colors, it has become a trusted material of the most realistic and fantasy-influenced dildos on the market. Silicone dildos are also on the softer side and skin-friendly. They can only be used with water-based lubricants, since silicone-based lubricants damage the material.

When testing and exploring new adult toys, it is important to listen to your body. From gentle exploration you will learn which materials work best for you. Please, take that into consideration when choosing your dildo’s material. What to learn more about cleaning dildos? Check out our article on How to Clean and Store Your Sex Toys (And What Happens When You Don’t).

4. Textures – Smooth, Veiny, or Ribbed/Beaded.

If you don’t already have a texture in mind, a great way to determine your preference is to experiment with condoms! Have you found yourself receiving greater pleasure from the original, smooth condom? Maybe you love the feeling of an ultra-thin condom that lets you feel every part of your man? Tried it all but think you need to go outside the box a little?

All of these textures are a preference to the receiver and can stimulate different parts of your vaginal or anal areas. While you’ll find the smoothest options within the glass and metal categories, the best veiny dildos will be made of silicone due to their ability to replicate realistic penises of every shape and size. I mean, they can literally replicate your favorite penis – we aren’t kidding. Take a peek at our penis molding kits if you’re interested in making sure you always have your partner with you for pleasure.

Looking for a ribbed or beaded dildo that will give you an experience you can’t find with your partner, alone? A ribbed or beaded dildo allows for you to experience with varying sizes and shapes – all in one sex toy! You can find these dildos in many materials but are most commonly seen made of glass or silicone.

5. Colors — Bright, Mixed colors, or Fleshy Colored

Color options are endless when it comes to sex toys – from clear to rainbow, flesh-colored to neon.

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