We sat down with Alicia Sinclair, Founder and CEO of b-Vibe, to learn a few tips on how to get started with anal sex.
For folks with a vulva:
Butt play is different from vaginal sex and there will be sensations that you have not experienced before. You are now entering a territory that takes education, time, patience and LUBRICATION!
LUBE! Use lots of it, and more of it!
Having an orgasm from butt play is totally possible if you have a vulva. There are 8,000 sensory nerve endings in the clitoris. The clitoris is shaped like a wishbone and for many, the clitoris extends all the way down to the anus.
Anal orgasms happen through indirect stimulation of the g-spot and a-spot, through the shared wall between the vagina and rectum.
It’s also worthwhile to mention that the forbidden/taboo appeal makes anal an intimate act and can be a massive turn on for both partners.
For folks with a prostate:
The prostate is a gland in the male reproductive system that produces a milky-like fluid that combines with sperm to form ejaculate. The prostate can be stimulated through the rectum, and according to anal play lovers, leads to incredible, full-body orgasms.
The prostate gland is located roughly 3-4 inches (7.5-10cm) from the beginning of the anal canal, and it’s about 1 inch (2.5 cm) across. The prostate gland is just behind and above the deepest portion of the penis, and it’s right below the bladder. The urethra (the tube running from the bladder and out the penis) runs right through the center of the prostate. The gland is located on the other side of the rectum (the last portion of the digestive system).
Speaking of orgasm, you’ll know it’s about to start because you’ll feel the prostate swell and then quiver. That’s the gland squeezing the fluid into the urethra, where it mixes with the sperm that has been carried from the testicles. Once that happens, the muscles of the pelvis will start to contract and cause ejaculation
What’s the best way to get started with anal sex?
1. Get your brain on board.
There is a lot of misinformation, taboo, and stereotypes that can confuse and cause fear. …And what’s the first thing your body (and butt) does when you’re scared? It tightens up. Which is no way to welcome in a penetrative object. Being mentally relaxed, well-educated and consensually excited to try anal is essential.
2. Get to know your fanny first.
Before partners get involved, go it alone. Massage the outside of your anus and maybe even dip the tip of your finger in your own bum while you’re alone in the shower.
3. Lube is your best friend.
The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina does and the butt’s tissues tend to be more less elastic. This makes using lubricant for every kind of anal play essential. Try coconut oil for anal massage with fingers, a water-based lubricant like for anal play with silicone products, and silicone lube for a penetrative anal sex, glass sex toys, or stainless steel sex toys.
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About Alicia Sinclair
Alicia has more than 15 years of experience in the Sexual Intimacy Industry. Through her extensive work in the adult space, she has led many training programs teaching people about being sex positive- an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual adult sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation. As a Sex Positive Advocate, Sinclair recognizes that sexual wellbeing is an important facet of an overall healthy lifestyle.
In December 2015, Alicia earned the title of Sex Expert after having completed in-depth courses in sexology, clinical and coaching skills, and competency training from Sex Coach University, a program developed by Sex Coach pioneer and past AASCET President, Dr. Patti Britton. Alicia is a Certified Sex Educator, Certified Sexuality Coach, and is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches. She is the instructor of the expert course “Sex Toys in Today’s Market” at Sexology University.
Alicia is the recipient of the 2017 XBIZ Exec Award for Businesswoman of the Year. An award that honors courage, ambition and drive to build or lead a thriving business, Sinclair is well known in the industry as encompassing all of the needed traits and demonstrated leadership to rise above and beyond in any challenge.